In my previous blog ‘What scripts are running us’ I invited you to challenge your conceptions of how things should be. We have so many firm ideas about all kinds of things! Yet so many of them are not our original thoughts, but have been ‘downloaded’ from our society – through parents, school, mass media, … Continue reading From the therapy room: Beyond bad feelings
Do you sometimes wonder, like I do, if one day our world will be run by smart robots? Developments in Artificial Intelligence increasingly endeavor to decipher the governing properties of the human mind and create machines in the image of humans. I hope that these machines won’t be as evil as presented in some science-fiction. … Continue reading What scripts are running us? Reprogramming your mind
What makes people stay in a dysfunctional relationship where they don’t feel appreciated and cared for? Why continue in a relationship where there is no joy, laughter, fun, trust and real intimacy – a relationship that has run its course and cannot be revived? Sometimes people say that they are staying together because of the … Continue reading Emotional co-dependency: Why do we get stuck in dysfunctional relationships
What is your habitual response to being hurt, annoyed or irritated by another person? Do you swear? Do you smash plates? Do you withdraw within yourself? Do you tell that person how wrong (insensitive, selfish, etc.) she or he is? And now think of the habitual reaction that you get from that person, in … Continue reading Nonviolent Communication: How to get your needs met
In my therapy work when I invite people to explore their childhood, I often hear this phrase: “Let’s leave the past to the past. I just want to move on. We cannot change what had happened and I don’t want to blame my parents.” This idea – that acknowledging one’s hurt as a child … Continue reading “I don’t want to blame my parents!”