‘Ella’ On one occasion I was working with a young woman (I will call her ‘Ella’) who was struggling with a lack of assertiveness. She found it very difficult to say ‘no’ to people and to stand up for herself. Consequently, she very often felt pushed around and not treated with respect. Ella was very … Continue reading Fear of change or dying to oneself
Have you suffered a childhood trauma? Probably the majority of people if asked this question would answer ‘no.’ And yet many of them will be mistaken. It may seem to you surprising how it is possible to be unaware of such a big thing as trauma – it is like overlooking an elephant in the … Continue reading Recognizing childhood trauma
In my previous blog ‘What scripts are running us’ I invited you to challenge your conceptions of how things should be. We have so many firm ideas about all kinds of things! Yet so many of them are not our original thoughts, but have been ‘downloaded’ from our society – through parents, school, mass media, … Continue reading From the therapy room: Beyond bad feelings
Do you sometimes wonder, like I do, if one day our world will be run by smart robots? Developments in Artificial Intelligence increasingly endeavor to decipher the governing properties of the human mind and create machines in the image of humans. I hope that these machines won’t be as evil as presented in some science-fiction. … Continue reading What scripts are running us? Reprogramming your mind
What makes people stay in a dysfunctional relationship where they don’t feel appreciated and cared for? Why continue in a relationship where there is no joy, laughter, fun, trust and real intimacy – a relationship that has run its course and cannot be revived? Sometimes people say that they are staying together because of the … Continue reading Emotional co-dependency: Why do we get stuck in dysfunctional relationships