Author: Ludmila

Depression Therapy Online

Depression Therapy Online

 

Depression is like a twilight of a soul when lights are dimmed and colours are muted. Alongside with anxiety, depression is a very common mental health problem. It can manifest itself in a variety of ways and in some cases can be extremely debilitating. Depression Therapy Online makes counseling for depression more accessible than ever from the comfort of your home.

Working with a therapist can help you explore the underlying causes, address current issues and develop coping mechanism for overcoming depression and preventing it from recurring in future.

Depression can undermine your ability to work and enjoy a fulfilling life. It can also have a detrimental impact on your relationships. It is important to be able to recognize the symptoms of depression and to seek help.

Symptoms of depression

Depression  can manifest in different ways. Sometimes we may experience intense feelings of sadness either ongoing or triggered by seemingly minor events. Often people tend to loose interest in doing things they normally enjoy. They may feel exhausted and have little energy to engage and socialize.

During the episodes of major depression a person may feel exhausted and lethargic to such an extent that it may be difficult to get out of bed, have a shower and get on with mundane life. Poor appetite or overeating can often be signs of depression.

Cognitive symptoms of depression include difficulties concentrating and processing information as well as memory problems.

People struggling with depression may feel increasingly irritable, unable to unwind and relax. Sleeping problems often go hand in hand with depression. Difficulty falling or staying asleep as well as sleeping much longer than usual may be indicators of depression.

When we are depressed we tend to withdraw within our own shell and feel very isolated. We may feel very alone, like nobody understands us, and we can be hurt easily even by casual remarks.

Depression therapy online can help you relieve the symptoms, identify the causes of depression and create better coping mechanisms.

Causes of depression

Depression can have multiple causes. Roughly they can be divided into two categories:

  • The lack of something
  • The excess of something

Among the things that may be lacking could be things that

  • provide emotional nourishment (e.g. love, care, meaningful relationships);
  • ensure stability and security (e.g. home, job, money);
  • promote physical health (e.g. healthy diet, physical activity, relaxation).

Things found in excess may include

  • stress (either work-related or home-related)
  • worry and overthinking;
  • demands on your time and energy.

Both lack and excess create a disbalance in our system and it becomes either depleted or overloaded. Both of these states preclude our system from functioning at the optimal level and this may lead to depression.

Depression Therapy Online

Counselling, especially in combination with mind-body therapy can be very helpful in treating depression without drugs. First of all, counseling helps you to overcome the feeling of isolation. Many people find it easier to communicate their feelings to a professional than to a friend or a family member who may judge you or be adversely affected. Finding understanding and support can both produce relief and give you more energy to deal with daily challenges.

Depression therapy online can help you explore and understand the nature and the roots of your depression from the comfort of your home. It may help you identify whether your depression is circumstantial (depending on the set of recent or current events) or has its origins in the past (for example, childhood trauma). Addressing the underlying causes of depression allows both to heal the old wounds and to create strategies and coping mechanisms for maintaining better mental health in future.

In certain cases antidepressants can also help regulate the chemical balance in our brain and facilitate recovery. Although treating depression without drugs is successful in many cases sometimes it is recommended to take antidepressants alongside counseling.

My approach: Mind-body treatment of depression

When I work with people struggling with depression I often use a variety of approaches and techniques. Each person is different and finding treatment that is effective for this particular individual is very important. Thus cognitive approach to treating depression facilitates greater awareness and understanding of different aspects of depression on the conscious level.

Sometimes, however, we need to access deeper strata of our psyche. Then mind-body techniques in combination with counseling prove to be very effective. Mind-body treatment of depression can help eliminate the long-lasting effects of past traumatic effects that can be stored in the body. It promotes relaxation and increases the sense of peace and calm. It can help unearth forgotten memories and heal them. It can also help reprogrammed our brain and engrain different responses and coping mechanisms.

Depression therapy online is just as effective as therapy received in person. This is also true for mind-body treatment of depression. Modern technology such as Zoom allow you to see and interact with your therapist as if you were in the same room. If you are struggling and travelling is not an option for you I would certainly encourage you to try depression therapy online.

 

Online Group Therapy: you are welcome to join!

Welcome to Online Group Therapy. As days are growing shorter and nights colder what can be better than spending time in a warm circle of caring supportive people? Especially in the present, when new restrictions on socializing are being introduced every day my online therapy group offers a friendly hub where you can feel safe to voice your concerns, share your feelings and find understanding.

Group Therapy can be helpful in many ways. This is what one person says about his experiences of group therapy:

“For me the main thing about therapy group was the opportunity to learn about other people’s lives and witness their fluctuating emotional states. This can be quite a surprising eye opener. Sometimes quite cathartic. You can be profoundly moved. It certainly helped me to become more attuned to other people and more empathetic.”

Most importantly, Therapy Group allows us to interact with others in a safe and nourishing space and thus can be very effective in enabling us to

  • Improve our interpersonal and social skills
  • Express and explore our emotional challenges in a supportive environment
  • Overcome loneliness and create the sense of connectedness
  • Alleviate anxiety
  • Develop our self-awareness and empathy

I ran therapy groups for many years and both myself and the participants found it to be very enriching and gratifying experience. Now I am introducing the online format which opens the group for people from different parts of the country and indeed of the world! I want to keep the group fairly small though (6-10 people) and would be grateful if you could let me know soon whether you (or a friend of yours) may be interested in attending.

Here are a few essential details:

When?           The group is intended to start in early November, meeting fortnightly in the evenings.

How much?   The cost is £12 per session payable by Paypal or bank transfer.

How long?     I would ask the participants to commit to 6 initial meetings (1,5 hours each) and then review.
The first session is a taster and you can decide not to attend after it.

Can I join later?  Once the core group is established and going the question of newcomers will have to be put to
the group.

Please share with others and feel free to contact me if you have any further questions.

Look forward to hearing from you.

With warmest wishes,

Ludmila

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Time to reconnect: Therapy online

Breezy spring greetings to everyone!

Hope you are keeping well and in good spirits in this time of uncertainty and new global and personal challenges. As it happens, the current adversity also brings with it some unique blessings. The abrupt slowing down of the grinding wheels of modern hectic life offers time and space for deeper reflection as well as the opportunity to reconnect with yourself and with your friends and family — even though it might be via emails, telephone calls or social media.

Personally, I am taking this opportunity to write and reconnect with you after a longish pause. As you may know, I have taken a break from my therapy work to recharge my batteries, attend to my health, spend time with my family and explore new paths and ideas. I am happy to let you know that I am resuming my work, albeit primarily in an online form, at least for now.

I have a lot of experience in counselling and body-mind therapy online and can say with confidence that it is no less effective than face-to-face sessions. It may feel slightly unusual to start with, but one quickly gets used to it and it also saves you time on travel.

Whether you are considering doing counselling for yourself or know somebody who is contemplating this route for personal growth I just wanted to touch base and let you know that I am back in practice. If you are unsure and want to try whether online counselling may be right for you I offer 20% discount off the first session to make it more affordable. I also have referrals discount scheme where both people — the one who refers and the one who is referred — can benefit from 50% off a session.

I offer therapy in three languages: English, Russian and Hebrew.

Once again, hope all is well with you and look forward to hearing from you.

With warm wishes,

Ludmila

 

 

Beyond Words: Body-mind healing practices

How words help us

Body-mind healing practices don’t form part of conventional counselling and psychotheraphy. Western therapeutic approach to helping our turbulent minds and souls is traditionally based on talking. And, of course, the ability to comprehend and express ourselves in words is an integral part of our experience as human beings.

Through telling a story we give shape to our reality and also give it a meaning, which is extremely important. At difficult times when meanings escape us we find ourselves floundering and being plunged into chaos. Then talking to someone who is ready to listen empathetically, with interest and without judgment can be immensely helpful as little by little words streaming freely and seemingly randomly begin to weave the fabric of new meanings.

Words also help unburden our mind of what had been stored there, so we often feel lighter and freer after having talked of what had been troubling or upsetting us. We can then begin to see things differently and more clearly and come across new unexpected solutions.

The limits of the talking-based approach

There are many creative things one can do with words, including writing this blog post. However, what I found in my therapeutic work and in my life is that no one approach is enough. Every approach has its benefits and its limitations. So it’s good to have a number of them under your belt to be able to pick and choose as feels right for the moment.

The limitation of the talking-based approach is that it keeps us in the upper layers of our consciousness. We can come to understand a lot of things rationally, but on the deep emotional level we would still feel the same and continue to be triggered by the same situations. This is where diving into the deeper strata of psyche, which are rooted in the body, can be helpful.

Beyond the words: talking to the body

When we want to affect the shift at the root level we need to learn a new language: we need to learn how to talk to our body. It may sound as a fancy metaphor, but actually it’s almost literally true because we still use words but they come from a different place, as our active daily mind relaxes and ‘sinks’ deep into our body. In this state our consciousness begins to expand and the answers flow back and forth between the conscious and the unconscious mind. And thereby they become integrated by the nervous system effortlessly, one step at a time.

The relationship between the human mind and the human body continues to be a sphere of mystery, less studied by scientists even than the Moon or Mars. Indeed how do we explain the cases of sportsmen, for example, who fully recover after some terrible spine injury,  returning to their sport having been told they would never walk again? I believe that these people have incredible ability to connect with their bodies and sustain this connection, without allowing it to lapse. Thus they mobilize all the healing powers of the organism, turning the brain’s ‘controls’ on to the healing regime so that it pumps the body with all the hormones, enzymes and whatever is required for production of the regenerating tissue.

While I haven’t had any such dramatic occurrences in my own practice, I do have the joy and privilege of being both a witness to and a participant in some very uplifting, transformative experiences that happen on a regular basis. And I would like to share with you a couple of such stories (names have been changed). I work a lot with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping, but also use a number of other active visualization techniques (sometimes involving movement) to help bridge the gap between the mind and the body, the conscious and the unconscious.

Jill: Undiagnosed stomach pain

Have you ever given much thought to the bodily idioms that we use, such as: “carrying a burden on your shoulders,” or somebody being a “pain in the neck.”  They’re more than just metaphors – they often correctly identify the part of the body affected by the distress, and the sort of pain that comes from trying to contain that distress. Emotional pain when it finds no outlet translates itself into physical pain and lodges itself into our bodies, turning – as the time passes – into a chronic condition. It takes some skillful detective work together with with patience, courage and perseverance to release it from its ‘nest’.

Such pains are often resistant to medical treatments because of their emotional roots. Thus Jill came to me with persistent abdominal pain that was particularly sharp in the mornings. She had been through all kinds of medical checks and examinations, which revealed nothing. She had been given pain-killers and told that she would need to take them for the rest of her life. She also tried acupuncture and homeopathy, but with no success either. She came to me because she heard of EFT and found my website.

It took us only a couple of sessions to uncover that the origins of Jill’s abdominal pain seemed to be in her relationship with her mother. Growing up Jill used to be afraid of her mother’s volatile unpredictable moods. She remembered getting stomach cramps when hearing her mother’s steps on the staircase. This was not a healthy safe, loving, supportive environment for the child to grow and now, in her mid-40s, Jill still struggled to establish proper boundaries with her mother.

There was a whole mixture of emotions: fear, resentment, guilt, anger. As we worked through them, talking and tapping and locating them in the body her abdominal pain began to diminish and within a couple of months it was almost entirely gone. Then we did a round of tapping and asked her body whether it was ready to release the remnant of the pain. Surprisingly, the response came: “No.” And the reason was: “I need a reminder – to keep the boundaries with my Mum.”

And this is a very interesting phenomenon: pain that we experience doesn’t necessarily have to be our curse or punishment. Sometimes it can be our protector, our shield or guardian. It disappears fully only when we feel safe for it to do so and thus release it from its duty.

Ada: turning logs into snakes and aversion into confidence

Ada came to me in distress over a meeting she was supposed to have with a colleague, whom she found uptight and rather difficult. She had a few days left before the meeting and her mind was already preoccupied with it, consuming a lot of her nervous energy. So we decided without further ado to explore the nature of her distress and, if possible, neutralize it. We didn’t do tapping on this occasion, but instead, after preliminary guided breathing and relaxation I asked Ada (sitting with her eyes closed on my couch) to imagine her colleague in front of her and to become aware of the resonance it produced in her body.

Ada said she felt as if a log was stuck in her throat. A fairly big dry peeling log, with a rusty nail in it. It was impeding her speech, making it difficult to breathe and the nail was scratching her throat. She said it reminded her of some situations at school as a young girl when she felt highly awkward and uncomfortable. We spoke about these early experiences for a bit and then I asked her whether she would like to remove the log from her throat. She was eager to, so we thought of a possible way of removing it. Could it be transformed into something else perhaps? After a brief moment Ada said ‘yes, it could be turned into a snake.’ We sat for some minutes in silence as Ada was performing her shamanic transformational act and me waiting, holding the space. After a while I ventured to ask how it was going. Ada reported that the log had turned into a snake and the snake had crawled away, leaving her throat clear and free. She didn’t think much about the forthcoming meeting after that and when the day came she felt confident and grounded.

Beginners’ tips to body-mind awareness

These are just a couple of examples of how creative body-mind work can improve our physical, mental and emotional health and wellbeing. Our inner healer – when we tap into it – can help to alleviate insomnia, polymyalgia and various chronic conditions as well as to overcome the fears of exams, anxiety, of our limiting beliefs, and much more. The more I witness it, the more I feel in awe of the wisdom of the body.

In order to become more in tune with your own body and learn to communicate with it better, try this simple practice. Choose a quiet place to sit and make sure nobody interrupts you for some 10-15 minutes (or more, if you want!). Relax your body, taking a few gentle slow breaths in and out, and then scan your body for various sensations/feelings in different parts. These can be either physical or emotional sensations. If some physical sensation clearly stands out (e.g. constriction in your chest) you may attempt to link it to what is going on for you emotionally at the moment. And vice versa: you may start from connecting with your emotions and then proceed to identifying them in your body.

This simple mindfulness exercise, if practiced regularly, is very effective in quieting the mind’s chatter, promoting self-awareness and helping us become more grounded and rooted in our bodies, as we become more connected throughout our being.

Reprogramming your brain: 9th World Tapping Summit

Spring greetings to my readers!

Sorry for not being in touch for a while. Things have been rather busy in my life and work lately and I fell behind with my monthly blogs. I promise to amend this in the near future, but in the meantime I want to draw your attention to one very good free online event: the 9th Annual Tapping World Summit:

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/2017tws/reg/afpd/new-access.php

As you may know EFT tapping is one of the very effective tools that help us ‘rewire’ our brain, get rid of unhelpful habits and thought patterns, heal our bodies and thus improve our lives. This is possible because our brain possesses the quality of neuroplasticity and if we find the way of communicating with it in the right manner all kinds of amazing things become possible. EFT tapping is one such ‘language.’

The Tapping Summit runs from 27 February to 10 March, with two presentations every day (that also contain tap-along sessions). Replays are available for 24 hours. To register and catch up on the first day (including science behind EFT: interview with Dr. Dawson Church) go here:

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/2017tws/reg/afpd/new-access.php

With warmest wishes,

Ludmila